Who can message you on TikTok? DM settings guide
TikTok's direct message settings let you choose who can send you messages, typically everyone, suggested friends, mutual friends or nobody, depending on your account and region. Messages from people outside your choice may go to a requests folder, and you can block or report anyone who bothers you.
Why DM settings matter
Direct messages are private, which makes them great for chatting with friends and answering customers. It also makes them the place where scams, spam and unwanted messages tend to land.
A few minutes in settings can decide whether your inbox feels friendly or overwhelming.
The main options
TikTok has offered choices such as letting everyone message you, only friends or mutual followers, or nobody. The exact list depends on your account type, age and region.
Accounts belonging to younger users have stricter defaults, and messaging may be unavailable for the youngest age groups. Check the privacy section of your settings for what you can choose.
Message requests and filters
Messages from people outside your chosen group may land in a requests area instead of your main inbox. You can accept, ignore or delete them without the sender knowing you read them, depending on current behaviour.
Some versions also filter possible spam or offensive messages. Check these folders occasionally if you run a shop, in case a genuine buyer ends up there.
Blocking, reporting and staying safe
If someone harasses you, you can block them so they cannot message or find you easily, and report the conversation to TikTok. Reporting helps TikTok spot patterns of abuse.
Never send money, codes or personal photos to someone you met through DMs, and be careful with links. Scammers often pretend to be brands, giveaway hosts or TikTok itself.
Frequently asked questions
Can someone message me if I don't follow them?
It depends on your DM settings. If you allow only friends or mutual followers, strangers usually cannot message you directly.
Will a blocked person know I blocked them?
TikTok does not usually send a notice, but the person may notice they can no longer view your profile or message you.